Friend E hurt her finger and asked me to drive her to the university clinic. The x-rays show that her wasn't broken but she's waiting to hear back to see it's fractured. She's hoping that it's only jammed, and that she'll be able to play frisbee again soon (that's how she hurt her finger). We got everything done around lunchtime so we went to CTB's together and had a good conversation.
E confessed that it scares her that men are so visual in their orientation to how "attractive" a woman is or is not . . . I was a little stunned to hear her say that because E is gorgeous. Beautiful. I am always shocked to I learn that my amazing, beautiful, wonderful female friends worry about their bodies or faces. They are lovely inside and outside . . . and they still worry. It's a horrible world where beautiful women are so constantly critical of themselves and so afraid that they are unloved and unloveable.
On another note, I didn't get much sleep last night (thanks to a sinfully-rich choc dessert full of caffeine) and am really barely functional today. Sigh.
Ps - E knows that beauty fades, and she's afraid that if a man loves her now because of her physical appearance, he might stop loving her one day.
I read a long time ago in a report / interview with beauty queens. MOst were insecure for the same reason your friend E gave.
ReplyDeleteYeah, I can imagine why she feels that way. Sometimes I actually feel sorry for beautiful women! They really get a tilted view of men and humanity in general. Men are always pretending to be so awesome around them, and everyone's kissing their asses... it creates a strange and flat-out wrong perception of the world. Once their beauty fades, they're going to get a rude wake up call!!
ReplyDeleteAnd who knew playing frisbee was so dangerous?!